Dear So and So… (the kick up the arse edition.)

Dear Me.

Stop being so hard on yourself. So, you don’t feel like a ray of sunshine every day, who does?

Whilst I appreciate that life is not easy at the moment it’s not the end of the world and it will change, you know it will, because you have the ability to make that happen.

Is there a day in the last 3 months where you have not found something to smile at? No, there is not.  You have a tendency to look for the joy around you, to find something that makes you smile when realistically shouting and crying would seem to be a better option and yes, I guess you hide that well too…

Even in your darkest days of years ago when you really were alone, frightened, hungry and the world felt like it was crushing you from all sides, you’d pick your arse up off the floor and kick back at the negativity until something made you laugh. Those days are gone because of how you choose to live your life and guess what? THEY ARE NEVER COMING BACK.

And you know the best bit? The sharing of the smiles, the contagiousness of the laughter, remember that, think on how everyone is happier when you are yourself and use that as fuel to look harder for the contentment.

Yes, I know this sounds like motivational workshop stand-up-and-sing bullsh*t but FFS woman! You know it works for you so sort it out!

Life may not be exactly how you would choose it it be but there is no need to apportion blame for that, especially not on yourself. Problems are transient, like life they move on, you choose how you view the life you live and have the ability to change that view, it’s not easy but it can be done.

Keep going. Look for the little things that make you smile, be aware of when you stop and change that.

You have a great family, relish them. Your zest for life is amazing, think on that.

Everything will be fine.


Me xx



Dear You

If you are reading this and you know you have made me smile – ever. Thank you.

I hope I have made you smile at some point too.


Me xx





About Kailexness
I am a Mother, a wife, a lover, a daughter, a friend but mostly I’m a woman. Time to shake off the labels and just let the words roll out….

8 Responses to Dear So and So… (the kick up the arse edition.)

  1. Blogswallop says:

    We always talk about writing a ‘note to self’ – so important to do that – a truly lovely post

  2. Hilary kelly says:

    You make me smile all the time simply because you are well….you. A truly lovely post one of me false eyelashes fell out as it brought a tear to my eye I hope that makes u smile cause u owe me a fiver to replace it xx

    • kailexness says:

      Nope… that made me laugh out aloud *puts a fiver aside* come and get it 😉

  3. Mrs Skinner says:

    Excellent advice you & me! I shall remind you at a later date should you forget! 😉

  4. Oh lady, I hope you listened to yourself x

  5. I should write one of these letters and paste it to my forehead so that I see it when I look in the mirror. And mine should also say STOP PUTTING YOUR FINGERS IN YOUR MOUTH. It’s a bad habit and DD is copying me. *sigh*

    Great letters 😀

  6. Chris Mosler says:

    Hello Missis. Good to see you giving yourself a kicking. You are fab and I am over here, a hop, skip and a jump away with a large mug of tea just for you…just say the word. xxx

    • kailexness says:

      I really appreciate that Chris xx

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